Is the elevated alk making your Ca level crash?
I'm really surprised that your RO/DI has alk of 3.4 dKH. My RO/DI has alk of zero--it changes color with one drop of reagent.
Your problem is that your topoff water is adding an alkalinity component to your system and is not simultaneously adding any Ca componenet. What is happening is that you're adding biomineral components in an unbalanced fashion to the tank.
What I mean is that a freshly-mixed batch of synthetic seawater should have Ca and alk components in a relative balance. Additionally, your Ca rxr is adding alk and Ca in a balanced manner. What does this mean? If your RO/DI water had no alk component, then you'd be adding Ca and alk to the system in the same ratios that they would be consumed by your livestock.
Since your RO/DI has such high alk, when you do water changes or top off, all that extra alkalinity in the RO/DI is "extra." You see, without the extra alk, you would already be adding Ca and alk in the proper proportions for consumption of your livestock. So the extra alkalinity is building up in the system. (Or, more accurately, the carbonates and bicarbonates are building up.)
How to fix this? You need to increase calcium input using an unbalanced method. First, turn the CO2 to the Ca rxr off. That will prevent the Ca rxr from adding any more alkalinity to the system. That will also prevent it from adding Ca as well. So you'll need to supplement with Ca (either CaCl2 or some IONIC liquid Ca supplement--do not use a Ca supplement that is bound (like with sugar) as that will be incompatible with your current supplementation methods).
With the CO2 turned off, the alk will have a chance to come down. Ca will also fall along with it, so you'll need to support Ca with one of the supplements I mentioned. Once alk and Ca are in line again, start the CO2 flowing again.
With such high alk in your RO/DI water, you're going to continually fight this battle, because every time you top off or do a water change, you'll be adding "extra" alkalinity. To offset that, you'll have to constantly be adding supplemental ionic Ca, either with CaCl2 or an ionic liquid Ca supplement. You might consider looking for another source of topoff water. Or perhaps your DI filter is exhausted and a change of your RO/DI filters would help.
For the long-term, if you cannot come up with a "clean" water source, you might consider not using the Ca rxr, especially if topoff water and water changes are enough to keep your alk within limits. Then you could just supplement with Ca to complement the alk that's ambient in your RO/DI water. Since your RO/DI water is not permitting you to maintain a balanced system, using other balanced supplements (like a Ca rxr or kalkwasser) won't work well for you--you'll continually have rising alk and never really have it balanced.
If you'll continue to use the Ca rxr, adjust it based on your system alkalinity--to maintain it around 10-11 dKH. Then use an ionic Ca supplement to keep the Ca elevated.
Unless you can find a source of fresh water without any alkalinity component, you'll be fighting this battle forever and you'll never enjoy the benefits of balanced supplementation that a Ca rxr would normally provide.