I wouldn't mix xenia with Acro as I've found Xenia impedes their growth, not to mention Xenias multiply WAY too fast, eventually taking over the tank within a couple years.
That said, a 21" deep tank should use halides if you want to keep the Acropora at all areas in the tank. If you are interested in keeping them only near the top, about 400 watts of powercompacts or T5 lighting should do just fine.
Live rock is up to you. If you want the tank to be more "open" looking, go with about 1lb per gallon. If you want a more classic reef tank look, go for about 2 lbs per gallon.