I have experimented with a lot of different ideas from MR, from a lot of people.Here is what works for me. Make sure your calcium is at least 450 at all times. Feed at night. Here's my feeding technique-
1-shut all lights except for moonlights.
2-Shut the flow/power heads.
3-wait a few minutes, then tease them with a taste of the food, fed directly with a turkey baster.
4-wait for the tentacles to come out. This shouldn't take more than a few minutes if you have placed the food directly onto the animals.
5-Once the tentacles are out, feed away...give them a lot of food, they will eat more than you think.
6-Leave the flow off for about an hour, this should be more than enough to let them finish.
7-Turn the flow back on. If you don't have a skimmer, hold a net in front of the intake grating to collect the uneaten food.
As for the food- I use 1 cube each of frozen brine and mysis shrimp, plankton, this stuff called emerald entree. I also add, on a rotating basis, a cube of squid, baby clam, or octopus. I also add a little bit of lettuce, use whichever kind you like, but it has to be ground into a paste. I mean really turn it into smushy,pasty, almlost liquidy-stuff. I defrost the frozen stuff a little bit with tankwater, then dice, dice, dice it up using a razor blade. It has to be diced for a few minutes so that the pieces are tiny. You can also add phytoplex or something similar, but you don't need a lot. I put the mixture in one of those small chinese food containers, and fill the container with tankwater. Mix it up good, so everything is thouroughly mixed in to the water. I use about 1/4 to 1/3 of the container, then freeze the leftovers and repeat 3 to 4 days later. I can post pics of the process, if you want.
You will get a bunch of different methods from different people, and I look forward to reading them all.