I didn't see this thread sooner, don't know why.
I have a couple ideas as I had problems with my setup that sound very similar to yours.
I started by taking everything off of my drain line that had an inside diameter smaller than the inside of 1" pvc. That means that I had to take out adapters that went to 1" hose as the inside measurement was only 5/8" on them. I also had to take out the ball valve I had put in line because the inside measurement in the ball was less than 7/8". That may not seem like much but it does restrict the flow a quite a bit.
The only thing I see in your return line that may restrict the flow is those ball valves. If you take apart the union's there can you see if the inside of the valves is the same size as the pipe? How about the unions? Some unions are not full flow either. On a drain line this is important.
The next thing I did on mine which you might want to try or you might not (this is purely for the noise, and not for the actual flow rate) is to put a cap on top of your drain line (right on top of the Tee) and drill a hole in it and slide a piece of small hose down it right down the drain. I put 1/4 inch hose down mine and you can control the sound by moving the hose up and down the tube. It takes a bit of patience, but when you find the right spot the drains shut right up.
The last thing I have to say is you should be less concerned with both drains doing the exact same thing and more concerned with them having excess capacity for flow. In other words, if something partially blocks one of them, will the other handle it? On my system I had two one inch drains and I throttled back my return pump (Iwaki 30md) so that I could cover one of the drains with my hand and the tank would not overflow. The one drain would get significantly louder, and there would be loud sucking noises, but no overflow. I actually liked it like that because it was a warning, anytime I heard loud sucking noises I knew there was some sort of problem with the tank.
Anyway, I hope that helps a bit, good luck and be sure and post pics of the tank with the inhabitants in it later.