Rob, that's such a shame. I pop into your thread occasionally, but to be honest, don't read every post. I know youve been struggling with this for a long time and are at your wit's end.
FWIW, the LFS near me uses tap water in all of their marine tanks, inculding their LR holding tanks. This of course, causes many problems, and every piece of LR I purchased from them in the past was a royal PITA to rid of hair algae. I've since stopped buying LR there. As Chris mentioned astreas do absolutely nothing for HA, or cyano for that matter. Turbos, and lots of them will mow down HA if it's kept trimmed down. I've seen HA infested tanks cleaned up in weeks after the introduction of lots of turbos.
I know many will tell you to not give up, but if I had been through everything youv'e been through, I'd be tossing in the towel too. Maybe a short break from the tank will do you some good. Empty the tank, clean it well, and store it for a while till your heart is back in it. You've learned alot during this, and as ou mentioned, it may be the LR. I know in my case, it was the LR.
Sorry for all the trouble you've been through. I hope your next tank will be more of a joy to you than this one has been.