Jay, I'm sorry to hear about this diasaster....I feel your pain, I've watched you turn the tank into a phenomanol state, in so lil time, I'm sure once you take a deep breath, you'll bounce back! If you don't have the energy rt now, through time you will get that sudden urge to do it again!
As for ur girl, you know I can relate, it's hard for them to sympathise and understand how much effort and energy we dedicate to the hobby. They see it as a waste of time & money, as we see it as a hobby and a challenge!!!!
If you need anything, you know where to reach me!